Anxious Sleepers

I’d like to share a trick with anyone else who finds falling asleep difficult. It’s really just a pick and choose from meditation. I seldom go by “recipes” but rather borrow and modify. I’ve dealt with anxiety for as long as I can remember but used to fall asleep easily. I’ve had to make adjustments …

The Day Porn Recovery Really Started

Today we are talking about an integral part of my own journey that may be missing from yours or from that of one you love. The war (carefully chosen instead over battle) of becoming Porn-free is a long one— full of ups, downs, and in-betweens. It's filled with the putting down of feet, renewed vigor, …

Make Them Feel Good Enough

For us guys the question “am I good enough” tends to revolve around our actions. Our perception of our actions is integral to our self image. I can’t speak from a woman’s perspective, but I imagine everything in this post would be just as helpful for the men to practice as well. If what we …

Why Martial Arts?

This is part of a series on the reasons I train Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and think it’s a great choice for many others. I think a fitting first post is starting with why I started martial arts. About that... the primary reasons I started aren’t the main reasons I continue now. Middle school left... an …

Why I Follow Jesus

This is a series meant to share (not necessarily in an order) the reasons I follow. I'm not a gifted theologian or apologist, just a me, and you're a me too. Following Jesus has made my life better (not easier) and made me better at life. I figured since we're each a me it would …

Goodbye 2019, Hello Now

2019 entailed one of the darkest, saddest times of my life. 2019 also gave me some of my favorite memories out of 33 years. As I look back I see lots of highs and lows, accomplishments, gifts, lessons, growth, losses, along with literal bumps and bruises. Looking ahead I would say 2020 is likely to …

Tip For Singles Looking For Someone

Having trouble figuring out how/where to meet someone? A great place to start is wherever you would like to spend time with a partner. Do you hope to spend hours at a bookstore finding great reads together? Go have a blast at the bookstore by yourself; get lost in there! It will be fun either …

This Christmas Season

In case I don’t see you before the 25th, Merry Christmas! I intend to watch a lot of t.v. (Poor choice I know), enjoy the days off, spend some time contemplating all my reasons to be thankful, and getting in extra BJJ training time. For those who don’t enjoy this time of year: I hope …

Quick Tip for Couples: Hold The Door

Holding the metaphorical door, or saying “you first”, might be the most powerful thing we can do for each other. This only really works if both people do it. I’ve heard it said, and believe myself, that the best relationships are essentially two people trying to hold the door for the other. Imagine the powerful …

I Can’t Believe We Didn’t Fight

Sometimes refusing to fight/telling yourself no can leave you speechless, in the best way. I’m blown away right now at how far God has brought me in and through my relationship with the girlfriend. I understand not everyone believes there’s a God, and even some of the ones who do, don’t believe He’s as involved …